I have lost the count of the number of times I have been told I am strong. Every time I have been told that, it makes me think - what makes one strong? "Being Strong" is a very relative term. I know many people who have faced certain situations in such a manner that when I even think of keeping myself in their shoes, I shiver. I don't think I can ever be as brave as them if I were to face it. And when I get to hear the same thing about me, I feel like saying - dude, it's not true!
If smiling even when you are deep in shit is strong, if controlling your true emotions is strong, if thinking about others first at the cost of your happiness is being strong then I am sorry. I don't want to be one. Those who are labeled as "strong" may agree with me that it is not something to be proud of. It's the weakest trait of a person, the worst one you can ever imagine.
People who can show their emotions are much better than those keeping a strong front all the time. Sometimes, you just need to express your true feelings. It can save you from many miseries that come your way in the future. It's fine to cry when you are low. It's normal to accept that you lost than stand there and fight the lost battle!
Yes I am in a pretty weird mood. And it is the result of the same old shit I get to hear every now and then. People can be so judgmental in life that it makes you hate yourself for appearing to be deceptive! It takes great efforts to stop yourself from slapping them! Yes, that's the only thing you want to do to them, and they so bloody well deserve it!
No, I am not strong! I am a mere mortal like you. I don't like the tag of being so amazing at facing situations. I break down too at the end of the day, if not at that moment or in front of others. And I don't recover out of it just like you. It is rather worse for me as my emotions stay buried inside me. It makes me weaker than most of you. My life is full of pessimism too, and it is a permanent state unlike yours as there is no way my emotions come out! It's a storage bag that has only fill option!
I am not writing it to hear how sorry you are for me. That's the last thing I want to hear. Nor I want comments like you understand, because you cannot! Today is one of those days when my patience bag is overflowing and I need to empty it. Public platform as I know many who can relate to this! Thank you for reading it and trying not to say sorry! It doesn't matter anyway! And a few of you, I know you are there for me. Thank you very much!
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ReplyDeleteNo comments,because you asked for none.Big or small,after all,we are human.
ReplyDeleteone thing baffled me... how did u manage to give words to my current state of mind and thoughts. silence prevails.
ReplyDeleteTake it in your stride. when people say you are strong, it means they are appreciating you for the way you have been handling things (at least me!)
ReplyDeleteEach one has a unique problem to deal with, and they deal in their own way. That way, one who keeps going on no matter what is a strong person.
Sometimes it helps to be vocal about your emotions, but later you feel embarrassed for showing off your weak side or being desperate. Sometimes its nice to keep one's emotions at bay even though you thought it was better to vent.
At the end of the day, one has to move on....and that makes one strong. Cheer up now!
Hmmm, didnt sound like self praise to me, at all....:)))))).....Good that you are strong.....but we all are strong, arnt we? It depends on the situation we are in. I feel its not an option, the situation demands that we show a brave front.Talking about myself, i am not strong, but faced with a situation where i need to be strong i buildup courage.deep inside i would like to flee.
ReplyDeleteBy reading this, i could sense that you are too emotional and sentimental a person. Many time we hear that anger needs to be spilled out.Its dangerous to keep it inside. i feel anger need not be spilled out. One needs to develop an attitude change. I feel its important to forget and forgive and not things stronglY.I hope i didnt make you angrier...:(
and reading you after a loooong time was great. Will come back to read your backlog of posts.....write a fiction. dying to read one. TC:)
ReplyDeleteAs you said, 'being strong' is something very different for different people.. but after reading your views on holding a strong front, I believe it is not a trait but an ability. And, it is not something to do with holding back your feelings, because there are some places where the display of such feelings is inappropriate.
ReplyDeleteHahaha...Let the feelings pour, lady!! N a strong lady will still be strong...Whoever cares about people who judge!!
ReplyDeleteNice read. No other comments as you asked.
ReplyDeleteI agree with what you say in the first part, you have summed up my thoughts on what being strong is or isn't.
ReplyDeleteBut I also feel that those who say you are strong are basically saying they admire how you are handling a situation.
But sometimes telling someone they are strong can also be a way of pressurizing them to stay strong without complaining or without trying to change the situation - that's very wrong (to put it mildly).
Hmmm...pour out your emotions, hum sunenge.
ReplyDeleteYou seem quite cut up.
ReplyDeletePlease use your mind more thanyour heart when dealing wit paculiar sitaution
Sigh.
ReplyDeleteI seem to be quite late on this string. So keeping mum.
ReplyDeleteNeha,
ReplyDeleteIt is good to let go when bag is full. I am glad that you have done what a normal human should. I agree that we should not be judgmental but it is again a human trait. Don't you ever talk about someone being a nice person? Is that too not being judgmental? Each of us label other person as per our own characteristics. Being strong differs from person to person and to each his or her own. One should just be self without any false facade.
Take care
:) happens to me all the time too! But i feel good to be strong and i think, everyone is strong in a weird way <3
ReplyDeletethis is my first visit here. very impressive and clear headed ramblings. This is the case with most, but this is all part of life and it is in adversity we get to know most.
ReplyDeletecheers!!!
{{HUGS}}
ReplyDeletejst wanna say..."m nt dat STRONG"...!!
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